People say respect must be earned. It's true.
People say that the younger generations must respect the older generation, that is true as well.
However respect is a two-way thing. I don't believe the crap that the elders must be respected and the youngs must be loved. No, bitch! That ain't how I jive. Both generations must love and respect each other. How do you expect the younger generation to respect the elders when the elders fail to show respect to the youngs as well?
Yes, the young ones must show respect first but the elders must show it later as well.
Stop treating the young ones like kids cause they will never grow up if you do.
But that's not really what I want to talk about. I want to talk about respecting one's opinions and choices.
Respect the opinions of the person even though you don't agree with them.
As long as their opinions do not condone any violence or insult anything or disrupt peace on earth, just let it slide.
You can choose not to believe in peaceful rally or demonstration but respect the ones who believe in it.
If you disagree, do it in an academic way, ie: give reasons on why you don't think the way they do.
Don't go around making personal attacks on them. That's just juvenile.
Respect the boundaries that people set for themselves.
Allow them to stand their grounds when it matters to them.
If a girl refused to go out with you for certain reasons, listen to her explanation.
Don't just beg her until she relents.
Respect the person's choices as long as they're not detrimental.
If they choose to seek professional help, don't talk them out of it.
They might sense something might be wrong in them.
If they choose to wear a colour that they're comfortable with, let them.
You're not shoes. Why the hell should you run their life?
Respect the person's words and listen to them fully.
Don't just jump into conclusions without the full details.
Respect the reasons behind their words.
Respect the tears that they shed and the laugh that they burst.
Respect every yes you get. Respect every no and maybe you get as well.
Don't go on begging and begging until you lose it all.
Usah mengadu anak muda kehilangan adab jika kamu sendiri biadap
Usah mengadu gadis hilang kehormatan jika kamu sendiri tidak hormati mereka
Usah mengadu anak muda kehilangan harga diri jika kamu sendiri yang merendahkan mereka
Usah mengadu gadis asyik termakan pujuk rayu lelaki jika kamu sendiri yang memujuk rayu
Usah mengadu yang si tua tidak peduli jika kamu sendiri tidak pedulikan mereka
Usah mengadu dia melawan jika kamu sendiri yang menggari tangannya
Usah mengadu mereka tidak pandai jika kamu sendiri mengajar benda yang salah
Usah mengadu bila mereka diam jika kamu sendiri yang kunci mulut mereka
Usah mengadu orang lain tidak ada agama jika kamu sendiri tidak berperikemanusiaan
Dalam erti kata lain mengata dulang paku serpih, mengata orang dia yang lebih
Dalam erti kata lain usah gelar cerek itu hitam jika kamu sendiri adalah kuali dan arang
Dalam erti kata lain cermin diri dahulu sebelum menghakimi orang lain
Dalam erti kata lain benarkan mereka hidup dengan kehidupan mereka dan pilihan mereka.
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Showing posts with label reflection. Show all posts
Friday, 4 September 2015
Wednesday, 22 April 2015
Cause I will be labelled as a cheapskate tradition destroyer part 3 (trendsetter edition)
Yoyoyo fellas! It's been awhile since I update this space. Now it's time for 'Cause I will be labelled as a cheapskate tradition destroyer' series. Part 1 was for the general stuff. Part 2 was for the special Bridezilla edition. Now Part 3 is for the trendsetter edition.
:: This is the part where we throw colorful confettis and play party horns ::
I wasblogwalking one day browsing through Facebook and stumbled upon my friend's blog post that he shared on Facebook. His name is Rizal Yaakub and y'all can view his entry here. I really find his post interesting that I'm inspired to write a response post to it. I ain't gonna critic his post. Since he's talking about wedding trends, I figure that some trends are so cliche and why don't I make my own trend. Cool huh?
That's all I guess. I'll put more later if I have the chance.
Cheers.
:: This is the part where we throw colorful confettis and play party horns ::
I was
Bachelorette party
The key focus of this party is to celebrate freedom (and loss of it). It must consist of the things that the bride-to-be likes. In my case, my party gotta have chocolates, laughter, music, dance and me getting a henna tattoo of a dragon at the back of my lower waist. In fact, everybody's getting a henna tattoo. And it gotta be private as in a small group of 6 to 7 girls getting together and enjoy ourselves as you know single people. And, Adrien Brody movie marathon. And it gotta be in a private place where there's lots of privacy. And at the same time, cheap. Kartika Sari party at my house yo!Post-wedding photoshoots
I'm going to borrow someone's DSLR and a super high mega pixel camera phone and let them shoot away. I just have to feed them good food and butt kiss them now and then. PS: Butt kiss means boost their ego by complimenting excessively. Okay. Maybe I'll have to pay for the paper and the printer (and the ink). Dude, I'm slightly old-fashioned.Anniversary dinners
It has to be done at home where there's only two of us cause I need an excuse to wear LBD/LWD/L-insertanycolour-D. Cause I wear hijab already, I ain't gonna wear short dresses in public. Ain't nobody got balls for that!Engagement ceremony/get-together
This involves me wire-tapping my dad and/or male relatives so that I can hear how they negotiate me cause I'm an interested party. I also can act as an observer to observe the setting. This will only be a low key setting whereby only immediate family members from both sides are to attend. No dulang hantarans yet cause it ain't official yet. It's GST season. Save your money!Wedding discussion meeting
Military style background music are to be played at all times. Hey, have you been to a wedding? It sometimes feels like you're in an imaginary unrealistic battlefield cause you're too scared/unsuitable for the real thing. I blame my anxiety.
That's all I guess. I'll put more later if I have the chance.
Cheers.
Sunday, 26 January 2014
Relationship tips from a single person
People keep saying to never take relationship advice from someone who is single cause what do they know about relationships right? Well, as a single person I can tell you guys that we singles see some screw-ups in your relationships and you guys actually come to us complaining about your relationship problems. Sometimes you guys fight over the simplest of things but we try to understand lah. Here are some tips for you people in a relationship that I think would be useful.
1. Love is all about teamwork.
Love and relationships are never games. But somehow I see people treat it like so which screws the relationship. Chasing is a thrill but once you guys get together, it's no longer cat and mouse chase anymore. It's all about teamwork. Work together with your partner to make the relationship work. Treat it like you would if it's a business entity. Relationship is a partnership after all. I mean, a relationship cannot work if both parties or one party do not take it seriously and refuse to cooperate right?
2. Be proactive
Girls, don't expect guys to make the first move all the time. Guys, don't be so lazy after asking her out for a first date. If you guys want to get together, plan it. It doesn't really matter who instigate it, what matters is that plans are made. Don't complain that the other party doesn't put in an effort to get together. If you want it, ask.
3. Get your partner's free dates
If you guys work in a legal environment, especially litigation you guys know what I mean. I noticed that this thing is taken really lightly but asking for your partner's free dates in advance is important so that you guys can actually plan to spend time together. Cause seriously, constantly postponing a get-together is really irritating. People don't really mind if you guys have to postpone for some emergency, but constantly postponing it? Seriously? Better not go out at all.
4. Communicate, communicate, communicate
Some of you guys really lack communications. Communication is very important in letting your partner know what you need, what you want and stuff. People are not mind readers so if you want something, ask for it. If you feel dissatisfied or happy, voice it out. Talk it out lah. Be professional about it. Don't shout or accuse each other. Start with things like "I feel that..." so at least the other party can explain themselves without getting too defensive. Make sure you guys understand each other to avoid any misunderstandings. Cause based on my observation, it's one of the reasons relationships screw up.
5. Don't set unrealistic expectations
We girls are guilty of this, me included. I do expect my texts to be returned on time and I get agitated when my calls are unanswered and rejected and when texts don't get replied on time. I know I shouldn't get so irritated but I do have friends who took months to reply and the one who never replies yet accuses me of never keeping in touch. I don't really expect texts to be returned there and then but hey, anytime you guys are online would be fine. And I'm talking about friends of the same gender.
What I'm trying to say is that please do not expect a lot from your partner. Some of us actually need coaxing and reminders. Hate to break it to you guys about this but sometimes we have to act like a secretary. You know what, don't expect at all.
6. I don't care if you're my best friend in the whole wide world but if you cheat on your partner, I'm on their side.
I may not like your partner but if you cheat on them, I'm always on their side. I don't care what are your reasons for cheating, I will still think that you're an asshole. No offence lah. When you cheat, it doesn't only affect your partner, it affects everybody in your circle whether you notice it or not. I know this one couple (they were) who both of them are my friends and I'm closer to the dude. When I found out that he cheated on his (ex) girlfriend, I chose to side with her. Not because she's a girl or that she's younger than me. It's just I saw how her hurt she was and how it devastated her. It just makes me so angry that I fear that this thing will happen to me in the future. It gives me a twisted opinion about love and relationship altogether. Besides, scoffing at the word 'love' and 'relationship' is actually pathetic.
If you apologize, it's actually up to your partner whether to forgive you or not. To be totally honest, I would forgive my partner if he cheats on me but I will only do it once. If he cheats again, I'm burning his car. And, don't complain that your partner turns into a monster when they find out you cheated, YOU are the one that turned them into a monster that they feared they will turn.
7. Don't make promises that you can't keep
When you promise to keep in touch, please do. When you promise a second outing, do it. When you promise to wish good morning and good night everyday without fail, do it. When you promise not to hurt your partner, don't hurt them. Making promises cause the other party to expect and it hurts when you don't carry out. I have guys who after getting my number and saying that we should keep in touch never did and guys who promised a second outing never bother to even reply my text. What I'm trying to say is that screw being polite. If you don't feel like keeping in touch or go out with me for the second time, don't suggest it to me or give me ideas. It's fucking irritating. Heck! I never did. Why do you guys think I never ask for a guy's number no matter how cute or nice they are? Cause when I don't want to keep in touch with them, I just keep quiet and say bye. Yeah, I'm bitter but what do I care? I've been stabbed in the back by 4 guys (actually it's more) and their knives are still there. It doesn't really help that two of them stabbed me 50 times!!!! Guys, just stab it in the heart and be done with it, please!
Felt the burn or the stab? Good. Cause that means that it works. I blog about this topic with that intention. Don't worry. I felt it too.
Inb4: Kau single baik takyah cakap pasal relationship lah!!
1. Love is all about teamwork.
Love and relationships are never games. But somehow I see people treat it like so which screws the relationship. Chasing is a thrill but once you guys get together, it's no longer cat and mouse chase anymore. It's all about teamwork. Work together with your partner to make the relationship work. Treat it like you would if it's a business entity. Relationship is a partnership after all. I mean, a relationship cannot work if both parties or one party do not take it seriously and refuse to cooperate right?
2. Be proactive
Girls, don't expect guys to make the first move all the time. Guys, don't be so lazy after asking her out for a first date. If you guys want to get together, plan it. It doesn't really matter who instigate it, what matters is that plans are made. Don't complain that the other party doesn't put in an effort to get together. If you want it, ask.
3. Get your partner's free dates
If you guys work in a legal environment, especially litigation you guys know what I mean. I noticed that this thing is taken really lightly but asking for your partner's free dates in advance is important so that you guys can actually plan to spend time together. Cause seriously, constantly postponing a get-together is really irritating. People don't really mind if you guys have to postpone for some emergency, but constantly postponing it? Seriously? Better not go out at all.
4. Communicate, communicate, communicate
Some of you guys really lack communications. Communication is very important in letting your partner know what you need, what you want and stuff. People are not mind readers so if you want something, ask for it. If you feel dissatisfied or happy, voice it out. Talk it out lah. Be professional about it. Don't shout or accuse each other. Start with things like "I feel that..." so at least the other party can explain themselves without getting too defensive. Make sure you guys understand each other to avoid any misunderstandings. Cause based on my observation, it's one of the reasons relationships screw up.
5. Don't set unrealistic expectations
We girls are guilty of this, me included. I do expect my texts to be returned on time and I get agitated when my calls are unanswered and rejected and when texts don't get replied on time. I know I shouldn't get so irritated but I do have friends who took months to reply and the one who never replies yet accuses me of never keeping in touch. I don't really expect texts to be returned there and then but hey, anytime you guys are online would be fine. And I'm talking about friends of the same gender.
What I'm trying to say is that please do not expect a lot from your partner. Some of us actually need coaxing and reminders. Hate to break it to you guys about this but sometimes we have to act like a secretary. You know what, don't expect at all.
6. I don't care if you're my best friend in the whole wide world but if you cheat on your partner, I'm on their side.
I may not like your partner but if you cheat on them, I'm always on their side. I don't care what are your reasons for cheating, I will still think that you're an asshole. No offence lah. When you cheat, it doesn't only affect your partner, it affects everybody in your circle whether you notice it or not. I know this one couple (they were) who both of them are my friends and I'm closer to the dude. When I found out that he cheated on his (ex) girlfriend, I chose to side with her. Not because she's a girl or that she's younger than me. It's just I saw how her hurt she was and how it devastated her. It just makes me so angry that I fear that this thing will happen to me in the future. It gives me a twisted opinion about love and relationship altogether. Besides, scoffing at the word 'love' and 'relationship' is actually pathetic.
If you apologize, it's actually up to your partner whether to forgive you or not. To be totally honest, I would forgive my partner if he cheats on me but I will only do it once. If he cheats again, I'm burning his car. And, don't complain that your partner turns into a monster when they find out you cheated, YOU are the one that turned them into a monster that they feared they will turn.
7. Don't make promises that you can't keep
When you promise to keep in touch, please do. When you promise a second outing, do it. When you promise to wish good morning and good night everyday without fail, do it. When you promise not to hurt your partner, don't hurt them. Making promises cause the other party to expect and it hurts when you don't carry out. I have guys who after getting my number and saying that we should keep in touch never did and guys who promised a second outing never bother to even reply my text. What I'm trying to say is that screw being polite. If you don't feel like keeping in touch or go out with me for the second time, don't suggest it to me or give me ideas. It's fucking irritating. Heck! I never did. Why do you guys think I never ask for a guy's number no matter how cute or nice they are? Cause when I don't want to keep in touch with them, I just keep quiet and say bye. Yeah, I'm bitter but what do I care? I've been stabbed in the back by 4 guys (actually it's more) and their knives are still there. It doesn't really help that two of them stabbed me 50 times!!!! Guys, just stab it in the heart and be done with it, please!
Felt the burn or the stab? Good. Cause that means that it works. I blog about this topic with that intention. Don't worry. I felt it too.
Inb4: Kau single baik takyah cakap pasal relationship lah!!
Sunday, 5 January 2014
Past Me vs Present Me part 1
I'm 25 going to be 26 so yeah I'm old. Yayness!!!
Since I'm older and somewhat wiser (?), I noticed that I've changed... a lot. Past me would be very shocked to see the present me and the present me would be just winking at past me and said that this is real. As you move on to a new place or a new surrounding, your social circle change and so are your perspective and opinions. I don't think that it's wrong. So, here are the list of my perspective during my teens and early 20s and my perspective now.
1. Criteria of an ideal boyfriend/husband
Past me: I want a big brother figure. Someone who can take care of me. Someone who will tell me to stay out of trouble and someone who controls me a bit. Someone who cares about me and would scold me whenever I mess up. Someone who can guide me to the right path. Someone who can mould me to be perfect and good. Someone who will spoil me and dotes on me and treats me like a little girl. Someone who will protect and support me at all times.
Present me: Someone who I can be myself with. Someone who doesn't control me. Someone who recognizes me as an individual. Someone who respects and understand my life choices despite not really agreeable with it. Someone who will support me and my decisions even though my decisions are dumb and will get me in trouble. Someone who is willing to work together to strengthen our bond. Someone who will trust that despite me getting myself into problems and trouble, I can get myself out. Someone who acknowledge that I'm an independent woman. Someone who will tell me to keep an eye on my goals and go for it. Someone who stand by me and tell me that I can do it no matter how impossible and stupid my goals are. Someone who respects my opinion and will not shoot me down. Someone who is open-minded.
2. Life
Past me: I can't make it alone. I want someone by my side. I need someone to guide me. I need to be rescued. I'm a damsel in distress.
Present me: I'm independent. I have talents and intelligence that God gives me. I can make it. I can do it. The one who will rescue me is me. I'm a fighter.
3. Opinions
Past me: They are older and more experienced than me so they are right and I'm wrong.
Present me: Some are right, some are wrong. Doesn't mean that I'm young and have different opinions doesn't mean that I'm wrong.
4. On myself
Past me: I have to be a good girl. I have to be graceful, gentle, docile, obedient and nice.
Present me: I have to be a good girl and at the same time ambitious, hardworking, smart, gentle yet fierce, obedient yet stubborn and nice.
5. About people
Past me: I want everybody to like me even though I don't like them.
Present me: I don't want to be a people pleaser. It's really exhausting. I like food. Food is good.
6. To those who shoots down my opinions
Past me: They must have been right. Why do I even think about it?
Present me: This is my opinion so please suck it up!
7. When people tells me on how I should live my life (in a forceful way)
Past me: You're right. Okay. Okay. Okay.
Present me: Dude! My parents don't even do that to me so what makes you think that YOU have the authority to do that???
8. When thinking on whether to dump or keep someone who used to help you but now just plain toxic and makes me miserable. Period.
Past me: They helped me in the past and what would I be without them. I know that they make me miserable now and trying to control me but dumping them makes me look like an ingrate. Plus, who will donate their organ or love me or visit my grave?
Present me: Thank you for helping me in the past but you have to go. Me, putuskan silaturrahim? Yeah, I am. But, hey. I have to get rid of bad energy to save myself.
9. When people use religion for their own benefits
Past me: I can't even detect it. I genuinely thought that they're right.
Present me: Seriously, guys? Seriously? Go away!
10. When people unceremoniously dump me
Past me: Can we please reach a settlement?
Present me: Whatever. Please get out of my sight.
11. When people pushes me to buy things
Past me: Okay. I'll buy it.
Present me: Get out of my way!
12. On love and relationships
Past me: I have to wait for him to make the first move. I can't make the first move. It's going to make me feel cheap.
Present me: If I want it, I'll work to get it. Life ain't a fairytale. It doesn't matter who makes the first move, what matters is that the first move is made.
13. On life.
Past me: Feel free to intervene my life and shield me from making mistakes cause I don't want to make mistakes (begrudgingly). Since you're older than me, despite my parents say that it's my choice Imma let you decide for me.
Present me: My life, my choice, my mistake, my fight, my journey. You may advise, you may caution but the moment you try to force me and control me, sayonara ******!!!
14. On information stumbled upon (including the ones that are related to religion)
Past me: Oh my God! They're right!
Present me: Verify, verify, verify.
Since I'm older and somewhat wiser (?), I noticed that I've changed... a lot. Past me would be very shocked to see the present me and the present me would be just winking at past me and said that this is real. As you move on to a new place or a new surrounding, your social circle change and so are your perspective and opinions. I don't think that it's wrong. So, here are the list of my perspective during my teens and early 20s and my perspective now.
1. Criteria of an ideal boyfriend/husband
Past me: I want a big brother figure. Someone who can take care of me. Someone who will tell me to stay out of trouble and someone who controls me a bit. Someone who cares about me and would scold me whenever I mess up. Someone who can guide me to the right path. Someone who can mould me to be perfect and good. Someone who will spoil me and dotes on me and treats me like a little girl. Someone who will protect and support me at all times.
Present me: Someone who I can be myself with. Someone who doesn't control me. Someone who recognizes me as an individual. Someone who respects and understand my life choices despite not really agreeable with it. Someone who will support me and my decisions even though my decisions are dumb and will get me in trouble. Someone who is willing to work together to strengthen our bond. Someone who will trust that despite me getting myself into problems and trouble, I can get myself out. Someone who acknowledge that I'm an independent woman. Someone who will tell me to keep an eye on my goals and go for it. Someone who stand by me and tell me that I can do it no matter how impossible and stupid my goals are. Someone who respects my opinion and will not shoot me down. Someone who is open-minded.
2. Life
Past me: I can't make it alone. I want someone by my side. I need someone to guide me. I need to be rescued. I'm a damsel in distress.
Present me: I'm independent. I have talents and intelligence that God gives me. I can make it. I can do it. The one who will rescue me is me. I'm a fighter.
3. Opinions
Past me: They are older and more experienced than me so they are right and I'm wrong.
Present me: Some are right, some are wrong. Doesn't mean that I'm young and have different opinions doesn't mean that I'm wrong.
4. On myself
Past me: I have to be a good girl. I have to be graceful, gentle, docile, obedient and nice.
Present me: I have to be a good girl and at the same time ambitious, hardworking, smart, gentle yet fierce, obedient yet stubborn and nice.
5. About people
Past me: I want everybody to like me even though I don't like them.
Present me: I don't want to be a people pleaser. It's really exhausting. I like food. Food is good.
6. To those who shoots down my opinions
Past me: They must have been right. Why do I even think about it?
Present me: This is my opinion so please suck it up!
7. When people tells me on how I should live my life (in a forceful way)
Past me: You're right. Okay. Okay. Okay.
Present me: Dude! My parents don't even do that to me so what makes you think that YOU have the authority to do that???
8. When thinking on whether to dump or keep someone who used to help you but now just plain toxic and makes me miserable. Period.
Past me: They helped me in the past and what would I be without them. I know that they make me miserable now and trying to control me but dumping them makes me look like an ingrate. Plus, who will donate their organ or love me or visit my grave?
Present me: Thank you for helping me in the past but you have to go. Me, putuskan silaturrahim? Yeah, I am. But, hey. I have to get rid of bad energy to save myself.
9. When people use religion for their own benefits
Past me: I can't even detect it. I genuinely thought that they're right.
Present me: Seriously, guys? Seriously? Go away!
10. When people unceremoniously dump me
Past me: Can we please reach a settlement?
Present me: Whatever. Please get out of my sight.
11. When people pushes me to buy things
Past me: Okay. I'll buy it.
Present me: Get out of my way!
12. On love and relationships
Past me: I have to wait for him to make the first move. I can't make the first move. It's going to make me feel cheap.
Present me: If I want it, I'll work to get it. Life ain't a fairytale. It doesn't matter who makes the first move, what matters is that the first move is made.
13. On life.
Past me: Feel free to intervene my life and shield me from making mistakes cause I don't want to make mistakes (begrudgingly). Since you're older than me, despite my parents say that it's my choice Imma let you decide for me.
Present me: My life, my choice, my mistake, my fight, my journey. You may advise, you may caution but the moment you try to force me and control me, sayonara ******!!!
14. On information stumbled upon (including the ones that are related to religion)
Past me: Oh my God! They're right!
Present me: Verify, verify, verify.
Friday, 11 October 2013
Apa yang kau takutkan
Apa yang kau takutkan
Apa yang kau takutkan?
Adakah kau takut kau takde masa depan?
Atau kau takut sebab kau tak boleh foresee apa yang akan terjadi?
Adakah kau takut orang tu dump kau?
Atau kau takut yang apa yang kau usahakan itu sia-sia belaka?
Adakah kau takut miskin?
Atau kau takut nampak miskin?
Adakah kau takut take the next step?
Atau kau takut bersusah-payah?
Adakah kau takut hasil nukilan kau tak dapat sambutan?
Atau kau takut hasil nukilan kau diherdik dan dicaci oleh orang ramai?
Adakah kau takut kau gagal?
Atau kau takut diketawakan atas kegagalan kau itu?
Adakah kau takut akan suasana baru?
Atau kau takut bahawa takkan ada safety net untuk kau?
Adakah kau takut untuk go out of major?
Atau kau takut dikritik hebat oleh masyarakat akan pilihan kau?
Adakah kau takut untuk berkawan?
Atau kau takut dikhianati (lagi)?
Adakah kau takut dikecewakan?
Atau kau takut yang kau mengecewakan?
Adakah kau takut bersuara?
Atau kau takut suara kau tu akan membunuh kau?
Adakah kau takut melakukan kesilapan?
Atau kau takut kesilapan itu akan menghantui kau?
Adakah kau takut untuk bercinta?
Atau takut yang cinta itu akan membunuh kau?
Adakah kau takut mati?
Atau kau takut whether you did something right before your death?
Bagitau aku
Apa yang kau takutkan sebenarnya........
Apa yang kau takutkan?
Adakah kau takut kau takde masa depan?
Atau kau takut sebab kau tak boleh foresee apa yang akan terjadi?
Adakah kau takut orang tu dump kau?
Atau kau takut yang apa yang kau usahakan itu sia-sia belaka?
Adakah kau takut miskin?
Atau kau takut nampak miskin?
Adakah kau takut take the next step?
Atau kau takut bersusah-payah?
Adakah kau takut hasil nukilan kau tak dapat sambutan?
Atau kau takut hasil nukilan kau diherdik dan dicaci oleh orang ramai?
Adakah kau takut kau gagal?
Atau kau takut diketawakan atas kegagalan kau itu?
Adakah kau takut akan suasana baru?
Atau kau takut bahawa takkan ada safety net untuk kau?
Adakah kau takut untuk go out of major?
Atau kau takut dikritik hebat oleh masyarakat akan pilihan kau?
Adakah kau takut untuk berkawan?
Atau kau takut dikhianati (lagi)?
Adakah kau takut dikecewakan?
Atau kau takut yang kau mengecewakan?
Adakah kau takut bersuara?
Atau kau takut suara kau tu akan membunuh kau?
Adakah kau takut melakukan kesilapan?
Atau kau takut kesilapan itu akan menghantui kau?
Adakah kau takut untuk bercinta?
Atau takut yang cinta itu akan membunuh kau?
Adakah kau takut mati?
Atau kau takut whether you did something right before your death?
Bagitau aku
Apa yang kau takutkan sebenarnya........
Thursday, 22 March 2012
Wednesday, 21 March 2012
My lecturer once told me....
If someone insults/degrades Islam, please don't get too emotional.
Kalau orang kutuk/hina Islam, jangan cepat melatah.
Instead, just calmly and diplomatically explain to them of their misconceptions.
For example:
You told me that you don't like war but you have to support it cause your brother's in it.
You know how stupid that sounds.
Well, if your brother fell into the sewer, are you going to stand and say, "Hell yeah! I support this sewer. He can die but he has to stay."
Lagi kau rage, lagi banyak lah modal yang diorang dapat. That actually gives them reasons to insult Islam more.
What I'm trying to say: Advise, don't fight. With advising, you can be sarcastic while you're at it.
Kalau orang kutuk/hina Islam, jangan cepat melatah.
Instead, just calmly and diplomatically explain to them of their misconceptions.
For example:
You told me that you don't like war but you have to support it cause your brother's in it.
You know how stupid that sounds.
Well, if your brother fell into the sewer, are you going to stand and say, "Hell yeah! I support this sewer. He can die but he has to stay."
Lagi kau rage, lagi banyak lah modal yang diorang dapat. That actually gives them reasons to insult Islam more.
What I'm trying to say: Advise, don't fight. With advising, you can be sarcastic while you're at it.
Thursday, 23 February 2012
Money and status
My friend once told me that it's all about status today. People will look at what house you live in, how many cars you have, what car do you drive and stuff. He told me that 4 months ago. Now, I'm still thinking about it.
Personally, I do believe that it is the reality of the present world. What he said is what's happening today.
Isn't that sad? People look at you based on your possession. It's like your possessions determines your status and class, not your personality.
Why is it happening?
Why people tend to look at price tags now?
Well, it's kinda stupid, you know. To allow your stuff to overshadow you and to let people judge you with what you own instead of who you are. I had to admit, owning nice things is well... nice. It's nice to have lots of money because we don't have to worry about how to pay our bills, our education, healthcare, food and stuff. But having it dictate your life and define you, that's just sad. It's like saying, "Hi, I am nothing without my money. Without it, I'd just be some worthless dude." Money and worldly possessions aren't everything. In the end, what defines you is just... you.
Personally, I do believe that it is the reality of the present world. What he said is what's happening today.
Isn't that sad? People look at you based on your possession. It's like your possessions determines your status and class, not your personality.
Why is it happening?
Why people tend to look at price tags now?
Well, it's kinda stupid, you know. To allow your stuff to overshadow you and to let people judge you with what you own instead of who you are. I had to admit, owning nice things is well... nice. It's nice to have lots of money because we don't have to worry about how to pay our bills, our education, healthcare, food and stuff. But having it dictate your life and define you, that's just sad. It's like saying, "Hi, I am nothing without my money. Without it, I'd just be some worthless dude." Money and worldly possessions aren't everything. In the end, what defines you is just... you.
Wednesday, 22 February 2012
Alhamdulillah and new beginning
I just got my results. To be frank, I did badly. Really badly.
But, look at the bright side. I passed. I freaking passed. My whole CGPA is more than enough to get me into LLB. I can hope now. Alhamdulillah, I did it. In fact, we did it. All of us final year students who will be graduating. Guys, we did it!!! We're graduating!!!!!!!!
Now, I'm hoping for the best to get into LLB.
Thank you for the support, guys, I really appreciate it. And, congratulations to all.
To all final year students....
But, look at the bright side. I passed. I freaking passed. My whole CGPA is more than enough to get me into LLB. I can hope now. Alhamdulillah, I did it. In fact, we did it. All of us final year students who will be graduating. Guys, we did it!!! We're graduating!!!!!!!!
Now, I'm hoping for the best to get into LLB.
Thank you for the support, guys, I really appreciate it. And, congratulations to all.
To all final year students....
WE ARE GRADUATING !!!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, 21 February 2012
Pre exam result stress
Feeling: 
Nervous
Listening to: Above & Beyond presenting Oceanlab: If I Could Fly
Results will be out tomorrow. All of my friends and other students from UiTM are nervous about it. I hope that all of us do well, especially the final year students (law especially). My past results aren't really stellar but they're okay. I just want to pull the grade that enables to be accepted to LLB Hons program. But then again, I shouldn't worry so much about the past. I just have to acknowledge it and let it go. Just embrace the present and look forward to the future. I just have to be confident and have faith that I pass (Insya Allah). Well, I survived the last 7 sems right? Surely (Insya Allah), I'll survive the 8th (and final) semester.
Yes, I'm worried. Worried that I might fail a paper and simultaneously ruin my chance to get to LLB this March. I really want LLB so badly this March. It must be this March. I don't want to postpone or prolong anything anymore. I mean, taking a one-year extension for BLS is enough. Not that I regret at the extension. I like it actually. I'm more flexible and have more time for myself. Plus, I don't get all stressed out. I made some new friends (and a new annoying classmate) and found a new way to remain in touch with my old ones. Most importantly, my grades improve. Looks like I perform better with less subjects.
I used to rush in things. Rushing to grow up so I can have more freedom. Rushing to finish school so I can go to uni. Yes, my goal when I was in school was to get out and go to uni. Rushing to finish uni so I can work and earn more money. As I get older (and maybe a little bit wiser), I realized that I just have to finish everything in my own pace. Who cares if some child genius prodigy managed to enter Oxford Uni at the age of 14? Who cares if some genius child prodigy managed to solve an Add Math problem when he's only 6 years old? Who cares! They ain't living your life. They don't really play a substantive role in your life. Why measure yourself according to them? Life's short but that doesn't give us a good reason to rush life. We just have to use all the time we have to live our life with our family and friends, have a good career and stuff. Just go with the flow. But, don't go too slow. You might every opportunities that come your way. No same opportunities come twice. Well, they sometimes do but it just won't feel the same. But that also doesn't mean that one is better than the other. They're different and special in their own (twisted) way.
In conclusion (essay much?), I would like to wish all my UiTM friends all the best in their exam result ;)
This video might be inspirational I hope (contains profanity).
NervousListening to: Above & Beyond presenting Oceanlab: If I Could Fly
Results will be out tomorrow. All of my friends and other students from UiTM are nervous about it. I hope that all of us do well, especially the final year students (law especially). My past results aren't really stellar but they're okay. I just want to pull the grade that enables to be accepted to LLB Hons program. But then again, I shouldn't worry so much about the past. I just have to acknowledge it and let it go. Just embrace the present and look forward to the future. I just have to be confident and have faith that I pass (Insya Allah). Well, I survived the last 7 sems right? Surely (Insya Allah), I'll survive the 8th (and final) semester.
Yes, I'm worried. Worried that I might fail a paper and simultaneously ruin my chance to get to LLB this March. I really want LLB so badly this March. It must be this March. I don't want to postpone or prolong anything anymore. I mean, taking a one-year extension for BLS is enough. Not that I regret at the extension. I like it actually. I'm more flexible and have more time for myself. Plus, I don't get all stressed out. I made some new friends (and a new annoying classmate) and found a new way to remain in touch with my old ones. Most importantly, my grades improve. Looks like I perform better with less subjects.
I used to rush in things. Rushing to grow up so I can have more freedom. Rushing to finish school so I can go to uni. Yes, my goal when I was in school was to get out and go to uni. Rushing to finish uni so I can work and earn more money. As I get older (and maybe a little bit wiser), I realized that I just have to finish everything in my own pace. Who cares if some child genius prodigy managed to enter Oxford Uni at the age of 14? Who cares if some genius child prodigy managed to solve an Add Math problem when he's only 6 years old? Who cares! They ain't living your life. They don't really play a substantive role in your life. Why measure yourself according to them? Life's short but that doesn't give us a good reason to rush life. We just have to use all the time we have to live our life with our family and friends, have a good career and stuff. Just go with the flow. But, don't go too slow. You might every opportunities that come your way. No same opportunities come twice. Well, they sometimes do but it just won't feel the same. But that also doesn't mean that one is better than the other. They're different and special in their own (twisted) way.
In conclusion (essay much?), I would like to wish all my UiTM friends all the best in their exam result ;)
This video might be inspirational I hope (contains profanity).
Saturday, 11 February 2012
Beza orang fikiran sempit dan orang fikiran luas
Wow! I sure do learn my lesson not comment on Blog Serius anymore.
Why?
#1 You have different perspective in religion, you are automatically kafir.
#2 Anons will say that your private parts stinks (sickos!)
#3 They kafirkan you without you yourself kafirkan yourself. Wow! Pseudo fortune teller.
#4 Emotion. Drama. Emotion. Drama. Need I say more?
#5 Besides religion, if you have different opinions, you'll get insulted/banged/degraded/threatened
#6 You'll be more driven to the brink of insanity, suicide and stuff.
#7 Amboi, Minat K-Pop pun salah! Takde modal nak kutuk aku, kutuk pasal K-Pop lah ye. Takpelah. Korang baru tau yang aku ni dah tak layan K-Pop sangat.
#8 Boy, I miss LJ where people discuss matters academically.
Why?
#1 You have different perspective in religion, you are automatically kafir.
#2 Anons will say that your private parts stinks (sickos!)
#3 They kafirkan you without you yourself kafirkan yourself. Wow! Pseudo fortune teller.
#4 Emotion. Drama. Emotion. Drama. Need I say more?
#5 Besides religion, if you have different opinions, you'll get insulted/banged/degraded/threatened
#6 You'll be more driven to the brink of insanity, suicide and stuff.
#7 Amboi, Minat K-Pop pun salah! Takde modal nak kutuk aku, kutuk pasal K-Pop lah ye. Takpelah. Korang baru tau yang aku ni dah tak layan K-Pop sangat.
#8 Boy, I miss LJ where people discuss matters academically.
Sunday, 5 February 2012
A Maulidur Rasul entry
Yesterday was the 12th Rabiulawal 1433. You guys know what that means?
That's right! Prophet Muhammad PBUH (Peace Be Upon Him) was born.
Normally, in here we celebrate by conducting a procession while praying and making selawats for the Prophet (PBUH). Well, at least that's what schools and workplaces are conducting. It is a holiday after all.
Personally, instead of procession, why don't we remind each other to do good deeds to mankind? I'm sure the Prophet (PBUH) would be happy for us. Plus, no good deeds go unrewarded if you know what I mean.
Actually, good deeds can be done everyday regardless of holiday or no holiday. It can be something a simple as throwing a trash in the trash can or something else such as studying, do chores and the like.
Title : One Day
Artist: Matisyahu
What would you say to the Prophet (PBUH) if you get to sit with him for one minute?
Other than assalamualaikum, what comes next is really difficult. I might cry like the girl in the video because it is the Prophet (PBUH) we're talking about. It's every Muslims' dream to be with him. I think not only it's overwhelming thinking about it but it's actually pretty cool. Of course, I have to choose my words carefully. Being rude and explicit is a big no-no. Seriously, I don't know what to say other than giving salam to him. I might cry. Well, I almost cried watching that video which I muted it knowing that if I turned up the volume, I would cry more than I cried during the time Elphaba sang Defying Gravity in the Wicked the Musical.
To end this entry, I would like to wish Happy holidays and Happy Maulidur Rasul to all ^_^
That's right! Prophet Muhammad PBUH (Peace Be Upon Him) was born.
Normally, in here we celebrate by conducting a procession while praying and making selawats for the Prophet (PBUH). Well, at least that's what schools and workplaces are conducting. It is a holiday after all.
Personally, instead of procession, why don't we remind each other to do good deeds to mankind? I'm sure the Prophet (PBUH) would be happy for us. Plus, no good deeds go unrewarded if you know what I mean.
Actually, good deeds can be done everyday regardless of holiday or no holiday. It can be something a simple as throwing a trash in the trash can or something else such as studying, do chores and the like.
Title : One Day
Artist: Matisyahu
What would you say to the Prophet (PBUH) if you get to sit with him for one minute?
Other than assalamualaikum, what comes next is really difficult. I might cry like the girl in the video because it is the Prophet (PBUH) we're talking about. It's every Muslims' dream to be with him. I think not only it's overwhelming thinking about it but it's actually pretty cool. Of course, I have to choose my words carefully. Being rude and explicit is a big no-no. Seriously, I don't know what to say other than giving salam to him. I might cry. Well, I almost cried watching that video which I muted it knowing that if I turned up the volume, I would cry more than I cried during the time Elphaba sang Defying Gravity in the Wicked the Musical.
To end this entry, I would like to wish Happy holidays and Happy Maulidur Rasul to all ^_^
Friday, 13 January 2012
A jolt
I was browsing Facebook and stumbled upon one of my friends' status that made me almost want to cry. Cry out of realization.
We always plan things. When things don't go as we planned it to be, we tend to curse and get pissed off. We sometimes tend to get mad at God on why things screw up. Sometimes, we tend to lose hope and give up on life.
When reading that status, I realized that everything happens for a reason. God has reasons why things happen they way they are.
We always plan things. When things don't go as we planned it to be, we tend to curse and get pissed off. We sometimes tend to get mad at God on why things screw up. Sometimes, we tend to lose hope and give up on life.
When reading that status, I realized that everything happens for a reason. God has reasons why things happen they way they are.
Sunday, 11 December 2011
How to soldier on from a heartbreak
Smile. Just smile. It doesn't have to be a wide perky smile. It can be a small smile. A broken smile. A sad smile. But don't make it forced. Just smile. Smile when you see him. Smile even though seeing both of them together breaks you. Smile even though he talks about her. Smile even though you see her. You have no reason to make her your enemy. You have no reason to be a sore loser. Despite playing to win, it is important to lose graciously as well. The demon has retreated so don't worry. There are other demons out there. Let the Lord Knight deal with the demon. There are demon lords far more dangerous to face with greater rewards to get.
You are an Assassin Cross. Poison doesn't hurt you. Poison is your weapon. Use it. Smile. Enhance your weapon. Do not attack a retreating demon as its power is more dangerous when provoked. Dangerous than you can ever imagined. Keep that in mind.
I learned from the best, Taec.
To sum it up in Malay: Dah nama Assassin Cross, hati kena kental lah ^_^
You are an Assassin Cross. Poison doesn't hurt you. Poison is your weapon. Use it. Smile. Enhance your weapon. Do not attack a retreating demon as its power is more dangerous when provoked. Dangerous than you can ever imagined. Keep that in mind.
I learned from the best, Taec.
To sum it up in Malay: Dah nama Assassin Cross, hati kena kental lah ^_^
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