Thumbs up if you've been playing Star Wars theme song in your head while reading this.
2013 has been a challenging year for me. Not only that it marks my journey in the working world, it marks my journey as an independent person. For the past year, here's what I've experienced and learned:
Experiences:
- I actually gone to a blind date. It was okay lah to sum it up. If I had the opportunity to do it again (regardless with the same person or different person), I would.
- I got a job at a law firm in Bukit Damansara, Jayadeep Hari & Jamil. I loved it the first time I set foot in that office as a pupil-in-chambers.
- Graduated from uni. Period.
- I've been through different heartbreaks. They hurt in their own ways but hey, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
- Drove to Seremban Court alone for a case management.
- Went to Phuket and snorkelled at Phi Phi Island.
- I screwed up on one file that almost got the whole firm in trouble.
- Being a chairperson for a monthly staff meeting ALONE.
- I've lost some friends and gained some new ones.
- Met someone who I never expected to meet at all.
- Participated in White Ribbon Campaign and joined the 3km walk to raise awareness to end violence against women.
What I've learned:
- Heartbreaks will hurt you and crush you but it won't kill you. If you persevere enough, you'll get out of it.
- You can wish for the person who broke your heart well even though at the same you want to punch that motherfucker in the face.
- It's okay to cry, especially when everything is confusing and overwhelming for you.
- It doesn't really matter that you made a mistake. The most important thing is: what's your plan to get out of it?
- Mistakes at the same time can also lead to new opportunities.
- It's okay to be scared and jaded of the past. You're only human.
- Over-thinking and over-analyzing drains your energy.
- There will be people who don't understand you. Don't be surprised if it's someone that you cared about for a long time.
- Your life, your choices, your tests, your mistakes, your fight, your journey, your answers are definitely nobody's business.
- Your past will haunt you and affect your present and future.
- Don't let anybody tell you what you can and cannot do.
- Don't let anybody tell you what should and shouldn't be your opinion.
- First time is the hardest but you'll get the hang of it.
- Letting go is hard and painful but necessary.
- Despite of all the craziness, everything will be okay.
- Contrary to popular beliefs, sometimes office colleagues can be BFFs.
- Confess your love and take the plunge.
- The past will haunt you like mad and drives you insane.
- The future is scary but it can't be that bad. Can it?
- The world is sad. Pathetic even but that doesn't mean you have to.
- If someone shoots down your opinion and refuse to listen to your reasoning or justify you to force into accepting their opinion, it doesn't really matter if that person is looking out for you or cares about you or loves you, just drop them. Once they take away your voice, you ain't got anything and it also shows lack of respect.
- People do and say crazy things when they love.
- It's okay to be a little crazy.
- Brace yourself for emotional and mental bullying cause there are lots of it.
- Despite other people telling you otherwise, as long as you don't do anything against your faith, conscience or religion, chances are you don't need to be saved.
- There is such thing as being a stationeryholic.
- If someone tries to usurp your family's position (ie: reprimanding and nagging at you for either staying back late or delayed your meals when your parents are cool with it cause they know your reasons), kick them out.
- You gotta do what you gotta do even if it means coming to the office on weekends to chase deadlines.
- When reviewing your past, there are some moments that you deemed as awkward. Be grateful that it crossed your mind.
- There will be someone in your life who you ask yourself why did they stay in your life when they could just leave.
- You will have different opinions about stuff. Don't let the others decide what you should belief.
- Have confidence in your faith.
- There are people that had, currently and will be insulting your intelligence.
- Don't let your past prevents you from living in the present and future.
- Verify, verify and verify.
- Carpe diem.
