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Thursday, 31 January 2013

Of materialism

There was a video circulating around Facebook about how women look at men.



While some glorify the video as reality, others dismiss it as mere generalization. Both of them are right. It is a sad reality that we're facing today. However, not many people know why it happens.

This thing is taught, babe. Nuff said. Can't really blame people who succumb to materialism, regardless of age, gender, ethnicity and location. It is taught. To girls, especially. Believe me. I have the first hand experience.

Our school counselor once said that love would not suffice to survive in this world. Everything is money. Yes, I agree. Money is important to ensure survival in the modern world.

Then, our KH (living skills) teacher who is a man once told us girls that we have to ask a man three questions.

  1. Do they have any cash?
  2. Do they have a car?
  3. Do they have a house?
Then, our parents and relatives tend to bombard us with sayings such as:

"Don't go for someone poor."
"Get someone with a stable job that can feed you."

And then, comes the dowry issue. Parents tend to set really high amount of dowry on their daughters, sometimes too unrealistic for the guys to meet. The guys have to work his butt off, fast for a few months (sometimes years) and they even have to take up bank loans (like seriously) for it. And, for what? For a grand wedding that only lasts a few hours that will be attended by hundreds of guests that we don't even know? Then, the next thing you know divorce may follow suit. Well, one of the most common grounds for divorce is financial difficulties. I mean, come on. Even family ties got broken off because of money.

Don't forget poverty. Sometimes (most of the time), poverty do play a part in instilling materialism in us. I mean, just watch the movie Pisau Cukur (Gold Digger) and Alice in Cheongdam-dong. Look at how Bella and Se Kyung manipulate their way just to snag a rich man to help them out of poverty. And, I've always thought and was taught that riches corrupt people. Turns out poverty corrupts people too. Sad reality ain't it?

What I'm trying to say is this: Yes, materialism is taught. Taught by family members, school, the media and the society. So, is it really our fault that we succumb to the pressure of materialism? Somewhat since we can always fight against it. It's good to be realistic but that doesn't mean that we should resort to materialism.

#sarcasm Aku perempuan so aku kena cakap pasal benda yang perempuan selalu cakap seperti fashion, masak-masak, kahwin and makeup. Hahaha!!!

Monday, 21 January 2013

Muhasabah diri (Diyana style)

Quote from a friend:

"It is not destiny that determines love. It is choice. Our so – called destiny is a lie. Relationships last long not because they are destined to last long. Relationships last long because two brave persons made a choice to keep it, to fight for it and to work for it. Meanwhile, other relationships fail not because they are destined to fail. They failed because one of the two or both made a choice to give up."

What he said is true. From what I observed, things (the good ones lah) happen to people because they are brave enough to take the steps. Brave enough to get out of their comfort zone and venture out. Things fail because people didn't make any effort to succeed and work it out.

Aku bagi benda simple lah. Kau nak travel the world. Explore the other parts of the world other than your own backyard. Tapi, nak pergi kedai bawah rumah pun kau takut pasal ada berita pasal rising crime rates. Yes, the world is scary tapi itu tak bermaksud kau kena jadi misanthropic hikkikomori yang mempunyai masalah anxiety. Yes, you can read about it in the Internet and books but unless you put yourself out there, Internet dengan buku mana cukup bhai! Sama lah bila kau asyik contact dengan kawan kau secara online/text/phone calls. Ingat cukup? Mesti kau nak jumpa in person kan (melainkan orang tu kau tak nak jumpa lah)? Then, make an effort to jumpa lah! Kau tak boleh jumpa malam, so jumpa time siang ke. Tak kisah lah seminit ke sejam ke, asalkan jumpa. At least kau ada effort.

Yes, comfort zone is very comfortable. That's how comfort zone gets its name. Tapi, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. Too much comfort can turn you into a spoiled, whiny, wimpy and limp person. Kau akan jadi malas, manja and a soft ass pussy! Bila susah sikit, kau crumble. Kau tak nak camtu kan? Kau kan fighter. Kau jenis yang kalau nak sesuatu, kau akan work it out to get it. So, be that person! Get out of that comfort zone and rough it out. Kau ingat kawan-kawan kau yang kerja kat Klang Valley ni. Kau ingat diorang senang ke? No! They actually had to leave their families in their hometown for better opportunities! They effing sacrificed their comfort for something that is worth it: career is one of it! Sebab kalau terlalu selesa, you ain't going anywhere.

So, message aku kepada kau dan kepada sesiapa yang tengah terasa now is go out there and savour life (tapi jangan hedonistic sangat okay). Make friends with strangers (tapi at the same time be careful), do something crazy (but legal) and... OMG! Keluar je lah! You have nothing to lose. Bila kau dah tua nanti, at least kau boleh bagitau anak-anak dan cucu-cucu kau about your adventures. Aku tau kau ada simpan bucket list somewhere. Kalau tak in writing, maybe in your mind. Just do it, man! Life is too short to be anxious.

Tuesday, 20 November 2012

The middle part

I rang the doorbell for the third time. It's getting really cold here. Guess I deserved it for not bringing an umbrella with me. Now, here I am. Standing at the corridor outside her house soaking wet.

The door opened and I saw her looking at me. She eyed me from up to down, examining me.

"You're wet," she said. I forced a smile.

She made me took off my shoes before letting me in.

"Put it there," she said while pointing to the shoe rack to my right.

I followed her. As I entered the living room, I saw her talking to a man, could be in his 50s. Not sure about the exact age though because I had the feeling that the man was actually older than he looked. He was sitting on a cream coloured armchair as she stood beside him. Both of them looked towards me, noticing that I was there.

"Hi," I said nervously.

"Dad, this is my friend," she said.

"Nice to meet you," he said. He turned to her and said, "Why don't you ask your friend to take a shower first. He can wear Daniel's clothes for the time being."

She nodded and left the room. I smiled at her dad. He smiled back.

A few minutes later, she came and handed me a towel. She lead me towards a bedroom, presumed to be Daniel's bedroom as it looked like a guy's bedroom. But then again, it could be hers too as she was not really what you call an average girl. But then again, even the most tomboyish girl would not paint her room blue.

"Just leave your clothes on the floor. I'll get them later," she said.

I smiled at her. She looked at me suspiciously.

"Go take a shower," she said and left.

In the bathroom, I studied the shelf. There were two different shampoo bottles, one big conditioner bottle specifically for frizzy hair (hers obviously), liquid facial cleanser for men, a facial bar cleanser (must be hers), two pots of cream (hers), two toothbrushes, one tube of toothpaste, moisturiser, shower gels and a razor.

As I showered, I heard a knock on the door.

"Dude, just want to say that your clothes are on the bed."

It was her.

"Okay," I replied.

I got out after that and saw some neatly folded clothes on the bed. I put them on. They fit perfectly.

I got out of Daniel's room after that. She went up to me and said, "Not bad."

"Where's your dad?" I asked.

"In the bathroom," she replied as she sat on the sofa. She asked me to sit with her. I did.

"You're lucky that my dad's here," she said. "Because if I'm alone, you'd be stuck outside shivering and getting a really bad cold," she added.

"By the way, I told you not to get yourself in trouble with him," she scolded me.

She took out a first aid kit and took out some cotton wools and an antiseptic cream. She proceeded to wipe the cream on the cut on my lips. And then, she wiped the grazes on my elbow with another cotton wool.

Then, she got up and made her way to the kitchen and came back with an ice pack. She gave it to me and said, "This should... you know... relieve that black eye thing, whatever it is."

I press the ice pack gently at my black eye. It felt soothing.

"You should've seen yourself earlier. You looked like a total mess," she said.

"I had to explain to my dad what happened to you and why you're here the first place," she added. And then, she went on about how she explained to her dad that I got into a fight with Jason because he kept harassing her. She told me that her dad was okay with me, it was just that I was soaking wet with a black eye and a cut on my lip.

"You don't really have to do that," she said. Her voice was soft this time instead of the usual snarky, monotone, straight to the point voice that she always have.

I looked at her. She stared down to the floor. "But, I want to do it. I just can't stand seeing you worrying about every little things. I mean, it's bad enough that you have anxiety problems," I replied.

She flashed her usual sarcastic smile that she always did whenever she felt like punching someone for making a lame joke at her. I could see her cringing behind that smile. It was weird that I was so intrigued at this girl who basically only a girl physically and anatomically. Personality-wise? Err... she was not really a tomboy or a girly girl. She was just a weird person. If it was not for her curves and long hair, I would have been confused figuring out her gender. She was so weird that I think even weird people would find her weird.

She shoved me. I giggled. I saw her smiling, as in a happy kind of smile. Not that I never see her smile before. I saw her smile all the time, it was just that it was different this time. The bad part was that her hair was covering it as she turned away.

I placed the part of the hair that was covering her face behind her ear. She was still smiling, only this time I saw her cheek was slightly rosy. She was blushing!

"You look really pretty when you smile. As in, really smile," I said.

She lowered her head.

"You don't have to be shy. It's just me," I said.

She slowly lifted her head and I saw still smiling (and blushing). We stared into each other for a while. Our heads moved closer and closer towards each other.

To be continued... (I hope)

This is actually some sort of an experiment that I'm going through right now. I don't really have a plot worked out yet but as you can see from this story, a guy got into a fight and got beaten up really bad because he was defending his friend. This idea basically just came in my mind and I began typing this and ultimately I decided to call this 'the middle part' be cause this story is actually a middle part of something that I hope will materialise.

If you guys have any idea on how the beginning or the ending should be, feel free to comment aite ;)

Blogthings relapse

After spending months at Blogthings rehab, I'm finally free to post more Blogthings :D



You Are Hip


You are definitely not a hipster, but you are often on the cutting edge of trends.

You are proud of your taste. You like what you like, and you never try to show off how obscure or ironic you are.



You are into good food, good music, and good fashion. You are well known for your discoveries.

You don't mind if the things you love eventually become mainstream. You may be hip, but you don't have a complex about it!

Saturday, 6 October 2012

Bittersweet Melody

This is a poem/lyric (maybe) that I wrote back in 2007. This is one of my favourite poems I've ever written as it somehow relates to my life.

Please stop now
I wanna slow dance
Slow dancing with you
Please stop now
You’re moving too fast
Too fast for me to follow you

Why are you in such a rush?
Why do you think about it too much?
We’ve got the time in this world
Just take it easy and follow this song

Cause its bittersweet melody
The melody is bittersweet
Just like a love story
With a sad ending

My bittersweet melody
How can this be?
Just you and me
Fall in love… fall in love
With each other

Stop for once
I’m getting tired
Of catching up with you
Wait for me
I’m coming with you
I’m coming with you right now

Why you’re the one that I see?
Why isn’t it someone else?
I can’t fall in love with you
Because I’m afraid I might lose a friend

This bittersweet melody
Of couples and tragedy
The story ends
When the hero dies

My bittersweet melody
A story about you and me
The story ends
When you’re not with me here

My bittersweet melody
Of you and me
Are we meant to be
In love
With each other.

Sunday, 2 September 2012

I don't speak French but....

I was showering earlier today and this one came up in my mind:

Don't worry about the clouds in the sky
And the rain that will ruin your parade

Il ya toujour un beau soleil
There's always be a beautiful sun
Shining in the sky

Don't worry whether the moon and the stars will align tonight
As long as you're here with me.

Friday, 31 August 2012

My top 10 favourite love songs

I'm feeling extra jiwang tonight, which is rare because I rarely show my jiwang-ness.

In case some of you don't know, jiwang is a Malay slang for sentimental.

Since I'm feeling jiwang/sentimental, I'm going to list down my top 10 favourite love songs (Youtube videos included) that I would like to include in our (me and my future husband who currently remains a mystery for me to solve) love song CD mix.

#10 Irony by Seriously

I've been a fan of Seriously since 2009. With their catchy beat and light hearted lyrics, what's not to like about this track?



#9 Baby It's Fact by Hellogoodbye

Baby, it's fact. All of it's true. They way black is black and blue which is blue. My love is true, it's a matter of fact. Oh and you love me too. It's as simple as that. Baby, our love is true.



#8 Tonight I Know by Chester See

This song describes how I feel every time I have a crush/fall in love with someone, except for the 'Tonight I Know' part.



#7 Valentine by Kina Grannis

To be honest, Valentine's Day is non-existent in my calendar but this sing is just so sweet :)



#6 I Won't Give Up Until You're Safe and Sound by Ryan Narciso

This is a mash up of Jason Mraz's I Won't Give Up and Taylor Swift's Safe and Sound. They actually go together.



#5 In Your Arms by Kina Grannis



#4 A Short Little Song About Love by Nice Peter

This is a short and sweet song about love.



#3 All My Love by Cameron Mitchell

This is an original song by Cameron Mitchell from the Glee Project. What I like about this song is that it makes you feel warm and fuzzy on the inside.



#2 This is a Way by David Choi



#1 You're a Gift by Dante Give Me Motion

I can listen to this song for a million times and can still melt. Seriously.






Thursday, 2 August 2012

Ramadhan Review Special: Arranged



Synopsis

Two young women — one an Orthodox Jew, the other Muslim — meet and become friends as first-year teachers at a public school in Brooklyn. Over the course of the year they learn they share much in common, not least of which is that they are both going through arranged marriages.

This film is actually based on a true story of an Orthodox Jewish woman named Yuta Silverman who is also an executive producer of this film.

The film started out in the library of a public school where first year teachers had an ice breaking session. Nasira Khalidi, a Muslim of Syrian descent was up first. Followed by an Orthodox Jew Rochel (pronounced: Ro-Hel) Mashenberg. At first, they didn't talk to each other. Their friendship began when some students began to make some prejudicial remarks towards them. Nasira was teaching the class while Rochel was there to assist a blind student in that class as Rochel specialized in special children education and they were called to Principal Jacoby's office because of that. Another thing that strengthen their friendship is that both of them are going through the process of arranged marriage hence the title). Rochel went through a process called sadkhan which involves an arranged date set up by the matchmaker while Nasira went through the usual family coming to her house to meet her family. What I like about this move is that they portray Nasira's family as non-judgmental and not oppressive. Contrary to what's been reported by Human Rights Watch, Amnesty International and whatnots, when it comes to arranged marriage, both Nasira's parents did not force her to enter into arranged marriage. They actually want what's best for Nasira and took into account of Nasira's personal opinion. And, when Nasira finally found a match, they gave their blessings seeing how happy Nasira is. Meanwhile, Rochel was struggling in meeting a match of her own. Basically, she was pressured by her family to get married quickly (reminds you guys of something right?) in order to avoid diminished prospects of her sister Naomi.

On another note, this film also criticizes the liberalists and the secularists. For example, Principal Jacoby who is a secular Jew felt that it was her job to modernize both Nasira and Rochel which I think is unnecessary. In some way, I felt that Jacoby was disrespectful of both of their culture and try to force her beliefs to them.

In my opinion, this film is worth a watch. It is a feel good romantic comedy film with a hint of culture. Yes, you guys get to learn some culture, especially when it comes to Orthodox Jewish culture. This film also portrays that people can be modern and keep up with the current time while adhering to their faiths at the same time.

This film shows how individual relationships can transcend age-old divisions and shows that in the search for love, true friends know best.

Rating: 4.5/5

Now, on to the trailer:



Starring: Zoe Lister-Jones, Francis Benhamou, Doris Belack and Mimi Lieber.

For more info, head on to Arranged Official Website

Credits to Cicala Film Works on Youtube

Thursday, 19 July 2012

[Spotlight] Lindsey Stirling

Meet Lindsey Stirling everybody!




Or Hip Hop Violinist as they call her on America's Got Talent!!!!


I'm so excited for this Spotlight entry now. Why? Because this is the first spotlight entry ever that features a girl I realized that I've always write spotlights on dudes. Not that I don't like it, it's just I feel that it's about time I feature a girl

Well, on to Lindsey then.

She is a violinist, composer, performance artist, dancer and musician from Utah. She was born in Orange County, California but stayed in Utah. She was first interested in classical music records played by her father when she was 5 years old. Due to that, she requested the opportunity to learn and play the violin.

She was classically trained through private lessons for 16 years. She joined a rock band called Stomp on Melvin with four friends. As part of her experience with Stomp on Melvin, she wrote a solo violin song. Her performance helped her to win both title of Arizona's Jr. Miss in 2005 and the talent category of the National Jr. Miss Pageant.

Shortly after her performance in America's Got in 2010 (which she was a quarter finalist), cinematographer Devin Graham contacted her through Facebook to make a music video together. She replied a few months later and they scheduled to shoot her first music video for her song, Spontaneous Me. The video gave a major boost to Lindsey's popularity and she began to make music videos for her Youtube channel. Both Lindsey and Devin began dating after the release of her second music video, Transcendence. They've been together ever since and frequently collaborated with each other in making Youtube videos.

She always experimented in combining violin with hip-hop, dubstep and shuffling. She also has collaborated with other Youtubers such as Peter Hollens, Megan Nicole, Eppic, Jake Bruene and Frank Sacramone.

If you guys are into classical music with a modern twist, Lindsey Stirling is for you. And, if you like cute quirky girls doing what they do best, then she is definitely for you as well. I was interested in her when she collaborated with Megan Nicole to cover Starships by Nicki Minaj and I was hooked on her ever since. I just couldn't get enough of her talent and quirkiness (and the hair). She's not like those boring type of classical musicians who would just stand or sit down while playing their instruments. She actually dances and experiments in different genres to keep people entertained.

Here are some of her videos:



Spontaneous Me



Electric Daisy Violin



Dubstep Violin - Crystallize



River Flows in You by Yiruma



Transcedence

More Lindsey:
Lindsey's Youtube
Lindsey's Official Website
Lindsey's Facebook
Lindsey's Twitter

Credits:
Lindsey Stirling on Wikipedia
Lindsey Stirling on Last FM

Friday, 22 June 2012

Talk You Down

I really like this song :)
[ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/t/the_script/talk_you_down.html ]

The Script : Talk You Down

Songwriters: O'DONOGHUE, DANIEL JOHN / SHEEHAN, MARK ANTHONY

I can feel the colour running
As it's fading from my face
Try to speak but nothings coming
Nothing I could say to make you stay
Grabbed your suitcase called a taxi
It's 3am now where you gonna go?
Gonna stay with friends in London
And that's all I get to know

Just a cigarette gone
No you couldn't' be that far
So I'm driving in my car
Where I hope you are
Maybe I can talk you down
Maybe I can talk you down

We're standing on a tiny ledge
Before this goes over the edge
Gonna use my heart and not my head
And try to open up your eyes
This is relationship suicide

Cos if you go, I go...

Taking shortcuts through the alleys
While your racing through my mind
Cops can chase but they wont catch me
Not before I get to speak my mind
If there's still time

Just a cigarette gone
No you couldn't be that far
So I'm driving in my car
Where I hope you are
Maybe I can talk you down
Maybe I can talk you down

We're standing on a tiny ledge
Before this goes over the edge
Gonna use my heart and not my head
And try to open up your eyes
This is Relationship suicide

Cos if you go, I go...
Cos if you go, I go...
Cos if you go, I go...
Cos if you go, I go...

We're standing on a tiny ledge
Before this goes over the edge
Gonna use my heart and not my head

Just a cigarette gone
No you couldn't be that far
So I'm driving in my car
Where I hope you are
Maybe I can talk you down
Maybe I can turn around

We're standing on a tiny ledge
Before this goes over the edge
Gonna use my heart and not my head
And try to open up your eyes
This is Relationship suicide